How Social Media Breeds Apathy

When I first began blogging and vlogging over a decade ago, my intention was and has always been to use my online presence as a routing device back to reality. Before I signed up for my first Social Media account I wanted to make sure that those digital platforms served the same extended purpose as the local, regional and national work I was already doing. Whatever I shared, and still share with my online readership/viewership, is what I actually doing. After using these platforms such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram for a while I came to realize that many others didn't express that same sense of integrity. I realized that some people used these platforms to make a false identity, an Avatar; a digital icon or figure that misrepresents who they truly are. It was at this point that I also began to see the rationale behind why many people do this; lack of attention. From a Transactional Analysis perspective, Social Media has appeared to solve the problem of people needing recognition/stimulation, yet many people have also allowed it to immobilize them. Let me explain how this works...

In Transactional Analysis a "Stroke" is defined as a unit of recognition or attention that provides stimulation to a person. A certain degree of satisfaction comes after that stimulation is given. Babies who don't receive positive Strokes can develop RAD [Reactive Attachment Disorder] or even die from not receiving psychology/physical attention.

Prior to Social Media, conditional Strokes were given to a person based upon what they actually did or were recognized for doing. With Social Media a person is given that same attention, and oftentimes more, for doing absolutely nothing. It's a Stroke psychologically yet digitally it's a unit used to help create Social Media content algorithms that predicts what you want to see and hear. Every post that is engaged positively or negatively is a unit of recognition. A person can get more units of attention for simply posting that they want to write a book, they are trying to register for school, they hope to get married and they wish to get a job as opposed to actually doing any of those things. The Social Media Strokes people receive makes them feel accomplished, without the need to actually accomplish anything, and that is one reason most people don't follow through. Why should they? They've already been rewarded with recognition, for doing nothing. There are many people caught in this cycle of attention and Social Media has immobilized them. They're now accustomed to units of attention that is purely based upon simulating what they want, try, hope and wish to do in life. That ain't living.

Being immobile in today's society is aligned to apathy; one of the most powerless spaces to be in. It is a powerless space because we are no longer in an Information Age, we are in an Instigation Age. Before Social Media Stroke culture, allies were real folks who supported a common cause through investing actual money, time and/or resources. Nowadays digital allies may "like" or "❤" a post which usually doesn't translate into any real direct action. What we need nowadays are Instigators; folks who are proactively investing money, time and/or resources to support a common cause without being asked to. 

Speaking of being dormant, I gave an underground railroad tour to about 80 youth and a few adult chaperones at our Niagara Falls Underground Railroad Heritage Center recently. After they went through our space I debriefed them about what they saw and experienced. I asked them did they recognize any present day social injustices that reflects similar limits that impede a person's freedom today. Nearly everyone in the group raised their hands. When I asked who is going to do something about it only one person raised their hand. I told them that I was very disappointed and I passionately explained how their apathetic response is one of the primary reasons that injustices like this continue to exist! I also shared some examples of what they can do to change that narrative.

Social Media can be a very powerful, positive and progressive tool if it is used in an authentic way. Like with any addictive substance, once a person becomes addicted to the attention their false identity receives it is also very hard to kick the habit. Understanding the impact of our platforms, managing its use and engaging others is vital to our mental stability and physical well being. What we often see online is an amplified projection of what folks wish they were in real life. Sometimes the bold trolls we encounter are socially awkward people sitting at a cubicle in some telemarketing office. That "Woke" person going LIVE every day in some room with wrinkled cloth tacked to the wall behind them may "wake up" everyday after 12pm because they don't even have a job. Some folks only take pictures from the waist up or contort their bodies to give an illusion of something that doesn't exist. Like narcotics, alcohol or sex, some of us enjoy indulging in stuff like this because it is an entertaining escape from reality... Yet we are at a point now where researchers in the areas of Neurocognition, Psychology, Sociology, Physiology, Biostatistics and etc. are just scratching the surface on how Social Media is affecting, and infecting, us. I say "infecting" because anything that goes viral is based upon the idea of a virus, an infectious agent. 

As we move further into a technological age where the implementation of AI [Artificial Intelligence] is becoming move prevalent in our every day world, the line between what is fake and what is real is getting thinner and thinner. We must ask ourselves what that will mean for our future generations and how can this technology be used to reinforce their mental stability and physical well being. Can it be used? When I wrote the book GAMES; Transactional Analysis, Trick-Knowledge and the Psychology of People Running Game, my goal was to teach people how to recognize and break unhealthy cycles like that and its concepts are also apply in a digital domain, people play the same games. There is some perceived hole within a person, and in their life, that they try to fill with digital attention. No amount of "likes", "❤s", reshares, comments or DMs can fix that. It requires realtime work, offline.

Peace,
Saladin

 

“The nature of our relationships with others, and the environment, characterizes the kind of person we choose to be. Oftentimes, these relationships consist of Games; where we choose to be players, and/or get played.” -GAMES

 

 

Games are unhealthy behavior patterns designed to take advantage of others, and manipulate the environment. Within these Games, we are either the player, or the participant.

While some Games "dazzle you with kindness, and baffle you with bullsh*t", others will make you reasonably doubt your own name. This book is a humorous guide introducing you to Games such as:

-Monster in the Village
-LSWBT (Lets See Who Blows Their Top!)
-B.S.E. (Blame Somebody Else)
-Mind Reader (AKA: You Should Have Known, Veruca Salt)
-I.R.S. (I'm Really Sorry)
-Piper's Pit, Switch and Bait, and many more!!

As you become more familiar with these Games, you will be able to successfully:

1.) Recognize, analyze, and define various Games you may be playing, or participating in.

2.) Dismantle Games.

3.) Replace Games with behavior patterns that promote healthy relationships.

 

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Transactional Analysis

Part 3

Because many of us -Gods/Earths-, CAME INTO Knowledge of Self (KOS), there is a lot of data we naturally reject(ed) from our Caretakers. Sometimes Gods/Earths reject almost everything and therefore ‘block out’ their Parent and begin to culturally express themselves as a Child without a conscience. These are Gods/Earths who carry Mathematics in a very immature, delusional, and irresponsible way. You also have Gods/Earths who learned this Culture, b.u.t. still remain heavily influenced by their Parent and Society as their Caretaker. These Gods/Earths carry Mathematics in an overly zealous, rote, and religiously prejudiced way. As I stated in Part 1 of this series, in the positive sense: The Parent perspective brings order, stability, and tradition to our Culture; The Adult perspective brings responsibility, discernment, and options; and The Child perspective brings creativity, flexibility, and growth. In order to access these positive characteristics, a God/Earth must be in an Adult Position of ‘responsibility’ to ‘discern’ these ‘options’. In order for a God/Earth to effectively “build or destroy”, “add-on to the cipher”, or “draw this Math up”, our Adult must serve as the cognitive, psychological, and emotional filter for our Parent and Child data.

Transactional Analysis in our Culture
Our ability/inability to form lasting attachments/bonds with ourselves, others, and the Planet is a direct result of how O.K. we are with ourselves as Gods/Earths. How O.K. we are with ourselves depends upon how we cee ourselves, and how we cee ourselves is determined by how we interpret what has happened to us prior to getting KOS, AND what is happening to us now that we have KOS. How O.K. we are with ourselves is what ultimately determines how we interpret our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum, and any other information that teaches us about our role in this Nation and our attitude towards other Nations. Being O.K. means that we’re not making the next God pay because our last three boyfriends cheated on us. Being O.K. means that we no longer harbor hatred for our Parent(s) because we understand they were “made other than themselves” (12/1-36). Being O.K. means that as an Adult with KOS, we’re equipped to interpret our experiences, and “preserve the best part for ourselves” (1/1-14). Being O.K. also means that we “don’t build prison houses” for our social conditionings, and we have a choice to change our Psychological Position in Life in order to “be successful in all our undertakings”! (29/1-40) This takes guidance and work; and our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum functions as a GPS System programmed with ethical, moral, and virtuous coordinates to “lead us in the right direction”, not “easily lead us in the wrong direction.” (14/1-40)

One of the first questions a person is asked upon claiming any type of allegiance to our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum is: WHO IS YOUR ENLIGHTENER? In The NGE, the Student/Enlightener Relationship is the fundamental Dynamic that allows our Culture to be transmitted/received from one person to the next. W.D. Fard spent 3 ½ years walking, talking, and growing with The Honorable Elijah Muhammad in order for them to birth The NOI. Allah, who was/is affectionately called “The Father” of The NGE, along with his close Companions, established relationships with some of the youth in the streets of Harlem. These bonds they established with the youth and the Community became the basis of how our Nation grew, and how we continue to grow. It was some of the only stroking/reassurance these youth received to let them know that they’re O.K., and these relationships served to redirect many of them from a life of crime to a life of being upstanding Citizens –within our Society and to American Society. The Father and his Companions also let them know when they were NOT O.K. too, and gave them advice on what they needed to do to get it right when they had the answers. This fundamental bond or relationship between an Enlightener/Student still remains a Tradition amongst our Nation, and when a person desires to learn about our Culture they learn it directly from somebody who personally guides them. This Tradition also serves to help maintain the integrity of our Lineage, passed on from Enlightener to Enlightener, all the way back to “The Father” and his Companions who started this Nation in 1964, and to W.D. Fard and The Honorable Elijah Muhammad who are the contemporary ‘morning stars’ of our Movement. There are many People who didn’t follow this Tradition and erroneously got our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum without a Student/Enlightener Relationship. They either got it over the phone, in the postage mail, through email, off a Website, from a Book, someone just handed them a copy, etc.. Because all of these methods lack the basic stroking/reassurance that comes with a Student/Enlightener Relationship, many of them develop(ed) a misunderstanding and distorted idea/attitude about this Culture; a fragmented concept about what it means to be a God/Earth, and this lacking will be reflected in the first three Life Positions:

1. I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K. (I’m not as much a God/Earth as you)
2. I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K. (Gods/Earths are only human, we’re not perfect or holy)
3. I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K. (I’m THE God/Earth, you’re not)

The same way it’s important to get an adequate amount of stroking/reassurance that we are O.K. via the coddling, intimacy, and love of our Mother/Caretaker(s), it’s important for a Student (Newborn) to get an adequate amount of stroking/reassurance that we are learning O.K. via the brotherhood/sisterhood, consistency, and love of our Enlightener. The seminal ‘unit’ of our Nation is the ‘Family’, and educating someone is for the purpose of reconciling and rebuilding the structure of our Family Units. Families establish Communities, Communities establish City States, and City States establish Nations. So within The NGE, the Student/Enlightener Relationship uses educational stroking/reassurance ‘transactions’ (‘transactional stimulus’ and ‘transactional responses’) to restore our Life Position of I’m O.K. and you’re O.K. (We’re O.K.). Once a Student (Newborn) completes our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum O.K., they are charged with the full responsibility of Enlightening others who’re striving to learn. I also must mention that sometimes a person had the adequate amount of stroking/reassurance from an Enlightener, b.u.t. because they never reconciled issues they brought with them into this Culture, they still ended up occupying one of the first three Life Positions. This unfortunate theme is illustrated in the tale of Anakin Skywalker (AKA: Darth Vader).

Our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum as ‘transactions’
The Structure of 120 Lessons, which is Questions, Answers, and Statements are in the form of transactional units: QUESTION (‘transactional stimulus’) “Why does the Devil teach that?” 12/1-40, ANSWER (‘transactional response’) “Because he desires to make slaves out of all that he can, so he can rob them and live in luxury.” 12/1-40, and a STATEMENT (‘transactional stimulus’ or ‘transactional response’) “Approximately 60 years ago” 36/1-36. The Lessons themselves illustrate multiple transactions between Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How we define God and Devil. These transactions highlight the variance between Righteous and Wicked, Divine and Destroy, Civilized and Uncivilized. For example, the 4/1-14 teaches us about the ‘transactional stimulus’ from the Devil in the Holy City of Mecca: “…they started causing trouble amongst the Righteous People, accusing the Righteous People of telling lies, and causing them to fight and kill one another.” We also learn about the ‘transactional response’ of the Righteous People: “…we ran the Devil from the root of Civilization, over the hot Arabian Desert, and into the caves of West Asia as they now call it Europe. ….We took everything from them but their language and made them walk every step of the way.” Sometimes one of our Lessons is a Statement that we must identify as either a ‘transactional stimulus’ or ‘transactional response’ such as the 7th/Actual Fact: “Mount Everest is 29,141 feet high.” An example of using “Mount Everest is 29,141 feet high” as a ‘transactional stimulus’ is when we initiate a conversation and elaborating on the tremendous growth/elevation we or someone has experienced. An example of using “Mount Everest is 29,141 feet high” as a ‘transactional response’ is when we elaborate about a challenging task/situation we’re confronted with that appears almost insurmountable.

Not only do we adhere to these transactional units, b.u.t. we also express these basic transactions from a Parent, Adult, and Child (PAC) Ego State. As Dr. Berne and I also suggest, in any Cipher (social “transaction”), you can always discern who you are as a God/Earth (Parent, Adult, or Child?) and the God/Earth (Parent, Adult, or Child?) you’re communicating with. Here’s an example to illustrate the following “transactions” between Gods/Earths. Keep in Mind that these transactions reflect Parent, Child, or Adult (PAC) exchanges of Gods/Earths who have Knowledge of Self (KOS):

Parent (God): That’s now cipher! A God can only teach you 120!
Child (Earth): Alright God.

Adult (Earth): How do you cee Today’s Degree?
Adult (God): Build or Destroy; What makes rain, hail, snow, or earthquakes? The Earth is approximately covered…

Child (God): I had Knowledge for 30 years.
Child (God): I walked with First Born Al Jamel.

Parent (Earth): Gods need to quit being so militant with the Earths.
Parent (Earth): I know. They can’t expect us to learn 120 like them.

Child (Earth): He bombed me about watching The God on Youtube.
Adult (God): What was the God building about?

Parent (Earth): The Gods oppress their Earths.
Adult (God): Not all Gods. There are many God/Earth Couples who’ve been happily together, highly respected, and actively involved in this Nation for more than 20 years.

Based upon the above examples, you can cee where so-called Building between Gods/Earths does nothing but Destroy, how so-called Building will be stagnant and never go beyond a certain cipher, and how real Building can be something that’s actually positive and progressive. So-called Building that does nothing but Destroy can be defined as ‘crossed transactions’ because Gods/Earths are coming from two different places. An Earth may be striving to have an Adult Build and with a God b.u.t. we may be responding like a Child, or drawing up his Lessons in a childish way. A God might be Building about something with a critical eye of Parent, and instead of simply agreeing with them, another God/Earth may simply make Adult inquiries. As long as the Builds are complementary (Adult-Adult, Child-Child, Parent-Parent), then this social equality can go on indefinitely. Complementary Builds or social equality ARE NOT only defined as Adult-Adult, Child-Child, and Parent-Parent either. Sometimes a complementary Build can be considered Parent-Child: which is oftentimes the Dynamic between an Older God/Earth (Parent) and a Younger God/Earth (Child). Because of our respect of Eldership, this Dynamic expresses itself as the Younger God/Earth (Child) asking QUESTIONS (‘transactional stimulus’), and the Older God/Earth (Parent) supplying them and/or offering them guidance of where to acquire the ANSWERS (‘transactional responses’).

Even with the Language of The NGE, Gods/Earths will also reflect Parent, Adult, and Child (PAC) Ego States based upon how they “draw-up” or interpret our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum (Supreme Mathematics, Supreme Alphabet, 1-10’s, 1-14’s, 1-36’s, 1-40’s, Actual Facts, Solar Facts, and *12 Jewels). Here’s an example to illustrate how Gods/Earths “draw-up” or interpret our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum from Parent, Adult, and Child (PAC) Ego States:

Parent: The God was slippin on the Born Degree in the 1-40’s so I bombed him.

Adult: That’s Peace Lord. Growth is about “Allah in his own good time” (39/1-40)

Child: “I don’t care about the poor part” (3/1-14)! 120 is mine personally, and that’s “the Best Part I preserve for myself”! (1/1-14)

Parent: If they ain’t Building, I’m not loosing “…no more time searching for that-that does not exist…” (10/1-40)

Adult: “…we gave them this chance…” (9/1-14) to do what’s necessary, so it’s all on them.

Child: Our Flag “is the greatest and only known Flag in this Universe”! (9/1-14) so I ain’t trying to learn about nobody else’s Flag.

Parent: “The Civilized is held responsible for the uncivilized” (19/1-40) so I’ve been building with them.

Adult: We gotta be like the Doctor who “qualified or disqualified.” (28/1-40) after examining People to cee if they’re fair enough to deal with “social equality” (8/1-14)

Child: The 33/1-40 says “Any live grafted germ from Original is Devil”, and Woman is grafted from Man. 3 + 3 borns equality (6) and that’s the science why she has six ounces of brain and can’t rise about equality. That’s why I don’t teach my Earth 120!

Parent: The Gods need to come together for “one common cause” (8/1-14) and quit all this childish arguing.

Adult: You gotta ask yourself, “Are they ‘healthy, strong, and good’?” (28/1-40) Are they “a said person of that ability”? (20/1-40)

Child: The Father had self-styled wisdom! So you got your own understanding and I got mine! If I hustle and you helping kids, that’s how I cee this Math, and that’s how you cee it! That’s the Freedom of this Culture and beauty of being “the Original Man(Woman)”. (1/1-10)

In conclusion, I want to thank the God ‘Life’ for putting me on to this Science! Exploring Transactional Analysis, like other Sciences of Life, can help shed some light on the ways Gods/Earths approach and assess ourselves, our personal/collective growth & development, and how we “draw-up” or interpret our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum. As I stated, Knowledge of Self (KOS) is a process used to help us say/be “O.K.”. The dysfunctional behavior that’s expressed by our People, especially within The NGE, demonstrates that many of us are still NOT O.K.. We’re NOT O.K. because there are clearly unresolved issues we’re dealing with, and until we honestly take a look within, these issues are “allowed to live and sting somebody else” (10/1-14). These issues are the direct result of trans-generational, immediate Family, and personal socialization we’ve BROUGHT WITH US into this Nation. Some of this data coincides with our Cultural Worldview, and some of it doesn’t. Knowing the difference and preserving the best part for ourselves is an aspect of “the duty of a Civilized Person” (18/1-40), what it means to be “a said person of that ability” (20/1-40), and is an investment in “taking the Devil off our Planet” (34/1-40). This of course is a never-ending inner journey and has a great deal to do with our Ego States: Do we recognize when we’re using our Cultural Curriculum as a Parent, Adult, and Child (PAC)? This is a courageous journey that begins with our willingness to look within and take responsibility for how we’ve chosen to deal with things in our Life. We must ask ourselves the question, “What are we going to do to maintain or change those things that will benefit ourselves, our Family, and our Nation?”, and be committed to “give all we have and all within our power to see this day” (40/1-40). It’s a Mission to change our Past by not allowing negative conditions to live in the Present, and dictate our Future! This journey begins with one step and each step is a day invested in our positive growth & development. Days becomes weeks, weeks become months, months become years, and these years become a lifetime!

Peace!

Property; Slaves

Transactional Analysis
Part 2

Knowledge of Self (KOS) is a process used to help us arrive at a Psychological Position in Life where we can say/be “O.K.”. From the time of our birth, the temporary separation or estrangement (via severance of the Umbilical Cord or Cesarean Section) from our Mother was our first impression of feeling NOT O.K.. From that moment forward, our preverbal/formative years were spent striving to reestablish that attachment/bond that once made us feel secure and O.K.. It is this preverbal/formative journey to reconnect is what sets the Psychological/Social stage for how we cee ourselves, and how we assess/approach our future relationships. Because we’re helpless as Children, and must depend entirely upon Adults to take care of us, our only self concept is derived from how People react/respond to us. We’re not at a stage where our cognitive ability is developed enough to critique or intellectually oppose the stimulus we’re receiving, so we can only accept these impressions as they are. Because of our helplessness, all of us come into this World and receive the first impression that we’re NOT O.K.. It is our preverbal/formative experience (Conception to Kindergarten Socialization) that will determine if we remain NOT O.K. or if we get the stroking/reassurance that we are O.K. via the coddling, intimacy, and love of our Mother/Caretaker(s). It is also this preverbal/formative experience that sets the Cognitive/Emotional foundation for how equipped we are to form healthy bonds/attachments with others. At this point, it must be clearly understood that prior to a person “becoming conscious” or coming into The NGE via getting Supreme Mathematics, Lessons, or even learning about The History of The Father, they might NOT have been O.K..

R.A.D. and Slavery
Psychologists define R.A.D. as ‘Reactive Attachment Disorder’ which classifies children who have a problem forming meaningful attachments/bonds with others. Some of these studies took place in Russian Orphanages where Scientists examined how the lack of attachment (stroking) that babies received over a period of time made them either not respond or react negatively to social attachments with others. In addition to the emotional, social, and cognitive components, this lack of response and/or negative reactions towards attachments was also measured in the low or stabilized levels of Oxytocin these children had during pleasurable interactivities. So even on a biochemical level, when these children interacted with others, “they weren’t feeling it”, and they weren’t feeling it because they never learned to. While some of these studies took place in Orphanages where the bonding experience in a child’s preverbal/formative years were very little to non existent, it’s important to understand that any environment where there is a significant lack of attachment (stroking) on behalf of the Caretaker(s), ESPECIALLY the Mother, this experience will produce the same results: R.A.D. as ‘Reactive Attachment Disorder’.

The Transatlantic Slave Trade and the Institution of Chattel Slavery was instrumental in destroying the Family bonds of Black People who were subjected to this. As property, we weren’t allowed to form attachments with eachother, only to the extent of breeding, and when our Family Members were sold away, it further alienated us and exacerbated our sense of attachment to one another. A Father may have been sold to a Slave Master in Georgia, the Mother sent to Alabama, two Children ‘sold down the river’ -to Mississippi, and the Newborn sent to Louisiana. Anyway, People suffering from such trauma would be forced to orientate themselves a certain way; and adapt socially and psychologically to the conditions they exist in. As Slaves, the trauma suffered during the preverbal/formative years and during a lifetime, and the restrictions placed upon Slaves to develop cognitive abilities, made them “other than” themselves (12/1-36) and ill-equipped to form healthy bonds/attachments with eachother, others, and the World around them.

In the Armed Forces, especially in the Combat Units, you’ll often hear Soldiers speak about not forming attachments with their Comrades because it’s painful to lose someone close to you. Therefore, Soldiers learn, as a defense/survival mechanism, not to form attachments with others. It must be understood that the difference between Black People (during The Transatlantic Slave Trade and the Institution of Chattel Slavery) and American Soldiers is that our Ancestors were POW’s in a legal Warzone for 379 years. It is also important to note that many Soldiers, being debriefed after coming from a Warzone, are diagnosed with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). While Soldiers from Vietnam, the Gulf War, Afghanistan, and Iraq receive(d) the Psychological/Pharmaceutical assistance for PTSD, it must be understood that so-called Slaves also suffered from PTSD, for Generations, and never received any Psychological/Pharmaceutical assistance. Although the term ‘Post Traumatic Stress Disorder’ can be traced back to the 1970’s, the actual symptoms of the Disorder have been identified amongst Soldiers in combat for centuries. The point in mentioning this is to draw attention to the trans-generational effects of Trauma. So although Black People were set free from physical bondage in 1865, it DID NOT make our Psychological Position in Life “O.K.”. It was my Ancestors who held this Psychological Position in Life that gave birth to and raised children, who gave birth to and raised children, who gave birth to and raised children for generations without ever resolving the issue being fundamentally O.K.. Many of the problems that we cee amongst my People are not personal or immediate Family issues. Some of these issues have been changing their molecular structure like super viruses being passed on through our genetic memory bank for over 300 years. Another thing to consider is that America is only 235 years old! So these Disorders, and Pathologies of the Perpetrators, is what set the infrastructural template prior to the birth of this Nation. Cee: Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome (P.T.S.S.)

Our Family Dynamics
During The Transatlantic Slave Trade and the Institution of Chattel Slavery, forming an attachment (stroking) with eachother meant “a severe punishment” (19/1-40). If so-called Slaves, who were often the majority on Plantations could remain divided, it was easier for the minority Slave Masters to maintain control. Many Slave Owners didn’t kill a lot of their so-called Slaves because they’d be loosing free labor. This is the reason Slave Owners resorted to disciplinary actions such as severe whippings/floggings, rape, beatings, torture and other hideous tactics to “plant fear” (8/1-36) in the so-called Slaves to stay obedient. When a Slave Owner did murder a so-called Slave, it was usually done in a staged, ceremonial fashion that would make Rob Zombie’s Halloween II look like Toy Story. Forming meaningful attachments (stroking) with eachother Post-Slavery also meant a severe punishment up to and including death! Coming together and forming Family Units and Communities were a socioeconomic threat to the White Supremist Status Quo (cee Black Wall Street and Rosewood). So in the midst of all of this racial tension and open hostility, black children continued to be born. These children were being born to many Parents who often meant well b.u.t. were often ill-equipped to do well; Educationally, Socially, Psychologically, and Economically. Over time and with the migrations into Urban Communities that were flooded with drugs to compound the poverty & disenfranchisement, and you have a recipe for disaster -b.u.t. also an incubator for unmatched level of character development from a systematically oppressed People. Many of these children who suffered from this disaster never received the attachment (stroking) necessary to know how to form healthy relationships with eachother, and these psychological and socioeconomic conditions laid the structural foundation for ‘Reactive Attachment Disorder’ before it was even classified as a Disorder. So understanding our own Psychological Position in Life as Black People hinges upon us understanding our Family Dynamics (His/Herstory);

1.) The Story of our Ancestors experience Pre/Post the Transatlantic Slave Trade, Slavery Experience, and/or Colonialism.

2.) Our immediate Family Dynamics. As I mentioned earlier, it is our preverbal/formative experience that sets the Cognitive/Emotional foundation for how equipped we are to form healthy bonds/attachments with others. Because of a baby’s helplessness, all of us come into this World and receive the first impression that we’re NOT O.K.. So it is our preverbal/formative experience (Conception to Kindergarten Socialization) that will determine if we remain NOT O.K. or if we get the stroking/reassurance that we are O.K. via the coddling, intimacy, and love of our Mother/Caretaker(s).

3.) Our personal experiences and socioeconomic conditionings that have shaped us.

Again, I cannot stress enough that our Psychological Position in Life as Original People, based upon the above three components, is what a person BRINGS WITH THEM prior to coming into Knowledge of Self (KOS). We, as a People, are a culmination of our own choices and the trans-generational data that was been passed on to us via our Ancestors. Even a child who is so-called ‘born’ into this Nation still has a Psychological Position in Life based upon their preverbal/formative experience (Conception to Kindergarten Socialization). And based upon their Caretaker(s) -God and/or Earth- Psychological Position in Life, this child still may NOT be O.K.. Within The NGE, our ‘transactional stimulus’ or ‘transactional responses’ still comes from the perspective of a Parent, Adult, or a Child (PAC). These perspectives lay the cognitive, psychological, and emotional foundation for the four Life Positions Gods/Earths have, and how we express our Culture:

1. I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K.

2. I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.

3. I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.

4. I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.

I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K.

(I’m not as much a God/Earth as you!)
This type of God/Earth can be defined as a Chronic Complainer, Anti-Social, Hater, a Solicitor for Pity, Competitor, and Malcontent. They’re NOT O.K. because they never received an adequate amount of stroking/reassurance, or came to terms with preverbal/formative experiences and Trauma they suffered in childhood and throughout their lives such as: molestation, abuse, neglect, poverty, bullying, disenfranchisement, Parental Alienation, Racism, and other experiences that reinforced those initial impressions of NOT being O.K. as a baby. Because they’re NOT O.K. and look at other Gods/Earths as being O.K., they may find comfort in alienating themselves from Gods/Earths who are O.K. because it hurts to be around “O.K.” Gods/Earths. Being around O.K. Gods/Earths only magnifies that they’re NOT O.K.. These type of Gods/Earths usually alienate themselves; anonymously existing on “an island” (27/1-40), and fail to maintain significant relationships with others because they never learned how to. You may find them living in rural/out of the way places, completely detached from Family, Community, and our Nation, stewing in their own psychological juices. Because of their sense of detachment, this type of person is inclined towards fiction (“lie”: 4/1-14). Using fiction in the form of fictitious names, people, places, and things, they manufactures a Fantasy World around themselves, and usually have none to very few valid sources to verify any of their actual exploits, adventures, or endeavors.

Another thing that’s characteristic of Gods/Earths who’s Life Position is ‘I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K.’ is that they’re ultra-insecure if/when they’re around other Gods/Earths. As a defense mechanism, they thrive on Competition and always feel a need to Show & Prove how better, smarter, wealthier, attractive, etc. they are than every other God/Earth. All of this is a transparent “shield” (5/1-14), because deep down inside, they’re really NOT O.K. and it’s always made obvious by the fact that they go out of their way to try to Show and Prove to People that they are. Some Gods/Earths are under the impression that competition/adversity, whether real or imagined, is a motivating factor to make them elevate. They try to “show forth and prove their power” by making Devils, completely oblivious to the fact that “Allah is God, always has been and always will be”, and doesn’t depend upon this makeshift competition/adversity to show & prove how allwise & righteous you are. The reality is, it’s not really the competition/adversity that’s motivating NOT O.K Gods/Earths. If it was, then they would be O.K. after the dust clears. Unfortunately this is usually not the case, and when the dust clears, you’ll cee/hear this God/Earth still talking about their next battle, and expressing how they’re still NOT O.K.! In their case, no matter what they do, they’re NOT O.K., and when everything seems to be going alright, “it’s always something!”

I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.

(Gods/Earths are only human, we’re not perfect or holy!)
This type of God/Earth suffers from stroking deprivation and childhood Trauma. Their Caretaker(s) ESPECIALLY their Mother neglected them during their preverbal/formative years, and this is when they began to learn that they’re NOT O.K. and no other Gods/Earths are either. This type of God/Earth never learned to bond with others, and isn’t really open to learn. Since they’re NOT O.K. and no Gods/Earths are either, no one can build with them. Why? Because the God/Earth trying to build with them is NOT O.K. either! The Trauma they suffered as a child such as: molestation, abuse, neglect, poverty, bullying, disenfranchisement, Parental Alienation, Racism, a Handicap, etc.., and lack of stroking/assurance, conditioned them to think it’s impossible for them to ever be O.K.. So even though they claim to have KOS, have Divine Attributes, and call themselves Gods/Earths, they continue to engage in activities that don’t live up to these Titles. They even go as far as to openly tell People that they can’t and don’t intend to either. Another characteristic of these types of Gods/Earths can be chemical/substance abuse, chronic belligerence, inconsideration, contempt for themselves/others, and a ready to die ‘Menticide’ approach towards life. This is the type of God/Earth that will go to a Medina Rally trying to bomb somebody about why their Caucasian counterpart is God/Earth too.

Because the only stroking/assurance they received was the basic creature comforts of a baby, in the early years of their development, and over time, this God/Earth learned to live without it. Therefore they gave up on relationships entirely, and consequently determined that others are just as incapable of forging relationships as they are. This type of God/Earth advocates a NO GOD/EARTH IS O.K. Philosophy, systematically looks for blemishes in other Gods/Earths to prove they’re NOT O.K., and uses statements such as “nobody’s perfect”, “hug your imperfections”, “God is just a man”, “I’m only human”, etc. to try to justify their own psychological (and often physical) handicap. They also use this as a method to ostracize concepts and Gods/Earths who are being/doing O.K. in order to get others to buy into their dysfunction as a standard of normalcy: (“…also to deceive the People so that they would believe in them.” 5/1-14, “To make our People of North America believe that the People of that Continent are the only People they have and are all savages.” 7/1-14). In addition to opposing those who strive to be O.K., these Gods/Earths may also “do everything within their -limited- power” (40/1-40) to try to prove how NOT O.K. other Gods/Earths are by striving to destroy them. Deep down inside, these types of Gods/Earths never learned to care about his/her “ownself” (13/1-36), and that’s why it’s so easy to show how much they don’t care about others.

I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.

(I’m THE God/Earth, you’re not!)
This type of God/Earth was also deprived of stroking and often suffered severe emotional and physical abuse at the hands of their Caretaker(s). In response to this, and in order to survive, they learned to ‘self stroke’ (comfort/assure themselves) by licking their own wounds. It’s been said that the early history of criminal psychopaths are People who hold this Psychological Position. As such a Gods/Earths grows, gains more strength to survive, and begins to feel O.K., their hatred also grows for those who severely abused them. Hence the Position of I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K. is born.

The danger of this Psychological Position is the fact that the Trauma has caused them to not look inward. So anything that happens is always someone else’s fault, and they never learn to take responsibility for their own conditioning. This Psychological Position whittled away their conscience, bred a narcissistic personality, and no matter what they say/do it’s somehow O.K. -in their own Mind. Although Gods/Earths who believe that “I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.” is suicidal and capable of hurting themselves/others based upon a “I don’t give a f*ck about nothing!” attitude, a Gods/Earths who believe “I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.”, is capable of hurting others based upon the idea that, “I don’t give a f*ck about you, and whatever I do -to you- is O.K..”

Because these Gods/Earths were deprived of strokes and learned to ‘self stroke’, they never learned to recognize nor appreciate a stroke from someone else. Therefore, the only person they’re capable of keeping a relationship with is the distorted image of themselves, and this is also exemplified in a preoccupation with grandiose ideas, drama, violence, and sadomasochistic; all characteristics typical in the profile of criminal psychopaths and serial killers. Even if they do develop a pseudo-relationship with others, it’s only a matter of time before they reject them because they’re not O.K. (never good enough), something is wrong with them, and it’s always their fault why they’re not building anymore.

I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.

(We are The NGE!)
This type of God/Earth has grown and developed to the point where they’ve used this Culture to make sense of their own conditionings to the point where they’re O.K.. Not only are they O.K., b.u.t. they can appreciate how other Gods/Earths are O.K. too. Transactional Analysis suggests that the first three Psychological Positions are based upon feelings while the fourth Psychological Position (I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.) is based upon thought and action. The reason being is because the first three Psychological Positions were forged during our preverbal/formative years and childhood upbringing. These Positions were not taken based upon a critical analysis of our social circumstances because we didn’t have the cognitive ability. As we grow to Adulthood, hopefully we develop this cognitive ability to make sense out of our social conditionings. “I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.” is fundamental to healthy, functional relationships with ourselves as Gods/Earths, with others, and with the Planet Earth.

How do we apply (PAC) and these four Psychological Positions to our 8-Point Cultural Curriculum? How does this branch of Psychology relate to dealing with ourselves and other Gods/Earths?

To be continued…

Peace!

Transactional Analysis
Part 1

Transactional Analysis is a branch of Psychology (a Social Psychology) that was developed by Dr. Eric Berne as a means to critique the social interactions between People. He wanted to design a system of analysis that was easy to understand and use for the common person. People, he said, were threefold and consist of a Parent, Adult, and a Child (PAC) EGO State. The Parent represents the socialization data we received from our Caretakers. The Child represents our reaction to this data, and the Adult represents our response and interpretation of this data. Dr. Berne suggested that in any social “transaction”, you can always discern who you are (Parent, Adult, or Child?), and who you’re communicating with (Parent, Adult, or Child?). Here’s an example to illustrate the following “transactions”. Keep in Mind that these transactions reflect Parent, Child, or Adult (PAC) exchanges of People who are physically mature (18 years +):

Parent: You need to stop talking like that.
Child: I don’t care.

Adult: What time are you getting off of work?
Adult: Around 4pm.

Child: I got the Supreme Wisdom Book from The Leader himself!
Child: Well I got 120 from First Born Prince!

Parent: The food in the Cafeteria is always nasty.
Parent: I know, and it’s always cold too.

Child: She will never like me.
Adult: So what are you going to do about that?

Parent: Christians worship a White Jesus.
Adult: Not all Christians. The National Catholic Reporter sponsored an International Art Competition to come up with an image of ‘Jesus of 2000’. A White Woman named Janet McKenzie won and her picture is a Black Jesus.

Based upon the above examples, you can cee where the Communication can easily break down, how Communication will only go in a circle, and how Communication can be something progressive. The Communication that does break down is defined as ‘crossed transactions’ because People are coming from two different places. Someone may be striving to have an Adult conversation and we may be responding like a Child. We may be discussing something as a Parent, and the other person is just being an Adult about it. It’s like Bob Dylan says in his song Shelter from the Storm’, “I got my signals crossed.” One thing Dr. Berne also suggested is that as long as the transactions are complementary (Adult-Adult, Child-Child, Parent-Parent), then these interactions can go on indefinitely. Complementary transactions ARE NOT only defined as Adult-Adult, Child-Child, and Parent-Parent either. Sometimes a complementary transaction can be considered Parent-Child: which is oftentimes the 1950’s, Male/Female, Eurocentric-styled Patriarchal Dynamic that Original People have often adopted in the Conscious Community. In The NGE, this Dynamic expresses itself as a God coming home to be greeted by his barefoot, meek, unintelligible Earth. She usually knows little to nothing about our Culture, is alienated from his social equality, and has his vegetarian dinner and 5 Percenter Newspaper ready for him when he walks in the door. It also goes the other way around where Gods play the role of a Child and the Earth plays the role of Parent (Mother). In this Dynamic the God usually doesn’t work or has never had a consistent work history. So he sits at home or stays in the streets while the Earth takes care of basically everything, including him, with the rest of her other children.

One thing you’ll also notice about the (PAC) is this: based upon how a person predominately interacts with others, they can be either heavily influenced by the Parent, or heavily influenced by the Child. If they’re heavily influenced by The Parent, they tend to be ‘prejudiced’ in their perspectives because they’re running off of some archaic data they received from their Parents: “Don’t trust nobody”, “All Men cheat”, “Light skin is more beautiful”, “Jehovah is God”, etc.. A person heavily influenced by their Parent is also overly serious, lacks fun and sense of humor. If a person is heavily influenced by The Child, they tend to be delusional in their perspectives because they’re running off of data in reaction to their Parents: “When I met you 2 weeks ago, I fell in love you. Will you marry me?”, “When I finish this demo tape I’ll be on Oprah.”, “I know you were talking about me, you’re laughing”, “When I hit this number tonight, I’m gonna buy you a Lamborghini!” A person heavily influenced by their Child also lacks a conscience, responsibility, and makes a lot of decisions off of whim with very little regard for the consequences. They’re more concerned about having fun more than anything. Sometimes you have a person who has what is called ‘a blocked out Adult’. This person is deemed psychotic because they didn’t consciously process the socialization they received from their Parent nor have they processed how they reacted as a Child. Therefore, they have no clear sense of right versus wrong.

In the positive sense, and with proper balance, the Parent influence brings order, stability, and tradition. The Adult brings responsibility, discernment, and options. The Child brings creativity, flexibility, and growth. In order to access these positive characteristics, a person must be in an Adult Position of ‘responsibility’ to ‘discern’ these ‘options’. The Adult serves as the cognitive, psychological, and emotional filter of our Parent and Child data. Within 120, one of these Adult Positions is characterized by the phrase, “so we put them on the worst part and kept the best part preserved for ourselves.” Although I don’t advocate that a person has three separate components to the Self, I can cee the importance of being a responsible Adult about recognizing possible Parental ‘prejudices’ we’ve adopted (Religion: “said other than” 10/1-10), and Childlike ‘delusions’ (Misled: “there is no Mystery God” 10/1-40) that make us “easily led in the wrong direction, and hard to be led in the right direction.” (14/1-40) All of us were children at one point in our physical growth & development. That Child was shaped and molded by the experiences via our Caretakers (Parent). As we’ve grown into Adults, we decide for ourselves how we want to use these experiences to shape/define our life.

According to Dr. Thomas Harris in his Book I'm O.K., You're O.K. , based upon our Parent, Adult, Child (PAC) socialization, there are four Psychological Positions that People have in Life:

1.) I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K.
2.) I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.
3.) I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.
4.) I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.

I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K. (You’re better than me!)
This type of person can be defined as a Chronic Complainer, Anti-Social, Hater, a Solicitor for Pity, Competitor, and Malcontent. They’re NOT O.K. because they never received an adequate amount of stroking/reassurance, or came to terms with preverbal/formative experiences and Trauma they suffered in childhood and throughout their lives such as: molestation, abuse, neglect, poverty, bullying, disenfranchisement, Parental Alienation, Racism, and other experiences that reinforced those initial impressions of NOT being O.K. as a baby. Because they’re NOT O.K. and look at others as being O.K., they may find comfort in alienating themselves from People who are O.K. because it hurts to be around “O.K.” People. Being around O.K. People only magnifies that they’re NOT O.K.. These type of People usually alienate themselves; anonymously existing on “an island” (27/1-40), and fail to maintain significant relationships with others because they never learned how to. You may find them living in rural/out of the way places, completely detached from Family and a Community, stewing in their own psychological juices. Because of their sense of detachment, this type of person is inclined towards fiction (“lies”: 4/1-14). Using fiction in the form of fictitious names, people, places, and things, they manufactures a Fantasy World around themselves, and usually have none to very few valid sources to verify any of their actual exploits, adventures, or endeavors.

Another thing that’s characteristic of a person who’s Life Position is ‘I’m NOT O.K. and you’re O.K.’ is that they’re ultra-insecure if/when they’re around others. They thrive on Competition and always feel a need to prove how better, smarter, wealthier, attractive, etc. they are than everybody else. All of this is a transparent “shield” (5/1-14), because deep down inside, they’re really NOT O.K. and it’s always made obvious by the fact that they go out of their way to try to prove to People that they are. Some People are under the impression that competition/adversity, whether real or imagined, is a motivating factor to make them achieve their goals. The reality is, it’s not really the competition/adversity that’s motivating NOT O.K People. If it was, then they would be O.K. when the dust clears. Unfortunately this is usually not the case, and when the dust clears, you’ll cee/hear this person still talking about their next battle, expressing how they’re still NOT O.K.! In their case, no matter what they do, they’re NOT O.K., and when everything seems to be going alright, “it’s always something!”

I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K. (I ain’t *hit and nobody else is either!)
This type of person suffers from stroking deprivation and childhood Trauma. Their Caretaker(s) ESPECIALLY their Mother neglected them during their preverbal/formative years, and this is when they began to learn that they’re NOT O.K. and no one else is either. This type of person never learned to bond with others, and isn’t open to learn. Since they’re NOT O.K. and no one else is either, no one can help them. Why? Because the person offering help is NOT O.K. too! The Trauma they suffered as a child such as: molestation, abuse, neglect, poverty, bullying, disenfranchisement, Parental Alienation, Racism, a Handicap, etc.., and lack of stroking/assurance, conditioned them to think it’s impossible for them to ever be O.K. or for any other human being either. Another characteristic of this type of person can be chemical/substance abuse, chronic belligerence, inconsideration, contempt for themselves/others, and a ready to die ‘Menticide’ philosophy towards life. This is the type of person that walks into bar frequented by off-duty Police Officers just to start a fight while he’s on Probation.

Because the only stroking/assurance they received was the basic creature comforts of a baby, in the early years of their development, and over time, this person learned to live without it. Therefore they gave up on relationships entirely, and consequently determined that others are just as incapable of forging relationships as they are. This type of person advocates a NOBODY’S O.K. Philosophy, systematically looks for blemishes in others to prove NOBODY’S O.K., and uses statements such as “nobody’s good”, “hug your imperfections”, “God is just a man”, “I’m only human”, etc. to try to justify their own psychological (and often physical) handicap. They also use this as a method to ostracize concepts and People who are being/doing O.K. in order to get people to buy into their dysfunction as a standard of normalcy: (“…also to deceive the People so that they would believe in them.” 5/1-14, “To make our People of North America believe that the People of that Continent are the only People they have and are all savages.” 7/1-14). In addition to opposing those who strive to be O.K., such a person may also “do everything within their -limited- power” (40/1-40) to try to prove how NOT O.K. others are by striving to destroy them. Deep down inside, this person never learned to care about his/her “ownself” (13/1-36), and that’s why it’s so easy to show how much they don’t care about others.

I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K. (I'm strait! Everybody else is f*cked up!)
This type of person was also deprived of stroking and often suffered severe emotional and physical abuse at the hands of their Caretaker(s). In response to this, and in order to survive, they learned to ‘self stroke’ (comfort/assure themselves) by licking their own wounds. It’s been said that the early history of criminal psychopaths are People who hold this Psychological Position. As such a person grows, gains more strength to survive, and begins to feel O.K., their hatred also grows for those who severely abused them. Hence the Position of I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K. is born.

The danger of this Psychological Position is the fact that the Trauma has caused them to not look inward. So anything that happens is always someone else’s fault, and they never learn to take responsibility for their own conditioning. This Psychological Position whittled away their conscience, bred a narcissistic personality, and no matter what they do it’s somehow O.K. -in their own Mind. Although a person who believes that “I’m NOT O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.” is suicidal and capable of hurting themselves/others based upon a “I don’t give a f*ck about nothing!” attitude, a person who believes “I’m O.K. and you’re NOT O.K.”, is capable of hurting others based upon the idea that, “I don’t give a f*ck about you, and whatever I do -to you- is O.K..”

Because this person was deprived of strokes and learned to ‘self stroke’, they never learned to recognize nor appreciate a stroke from someone else. Therefore, the only person they’re capable of keeping a relationship with is the distorted image of themselves, and this is also exemplified in a preoccupation with violence, porn, and chronic masturbation; all characteristics typical in the profile of criminal psychopaths and serial killers. Even if they do develop a pseudo-relationship with others, it’s only a matter of time before they reject them because they’re not O.K. (never good enough), something’s wrong with them, and it’s always their fault why they’re not friends/partners anymore. In the most extreme cases, this person is criminal psychopath who murders these People.

I’m O.K. and you’re O.K. (We’re all good!)
This type of person has grown and developed to the point where they’ve made sense of their own conditionings to the point where they’re O.K.. Not only are they O.K., b.u.t. they can appreciate how others are O.K. too. Transactional Analysis suggests that the first three Psychological Positions are based upon feelings while the fourth Psychological Position (I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.) is based upon thought and action. The reason being is because the first three Psychological Positions were forged during our preverbal/formative years and childhood upbringing. These Positions were not taken based upon a critical analysis of our social circumstances because we didn’t have the cognitive ability. As we grow to Adulthood, hopefully we develop this cognitive ability to make sense out of our social conditionings. “I’m O.K. and you’re O.K.” is fundamental to healthy, functional relationships with ourselves, with others, and with the Planet Earth.

How does (PAC) and these four Psychological Positions apply to us as Original People? How does this relate to the Culture of The NGE, and how can Gods/Earths use this Social Psychology to help improve their lives?

To be continued…

Peace!